How do I auto connect communications to leads via Relationship Field?

Hi,

I have a SmrtPhone subscription and every time I make a call, or get called or text, a new "Communication" is added in this app. As seen in the image below.

The issue is I would like it to search in 2 other apps for the "Contact Number" and when it finds a matching number, (Either in one, or both) it auto-connects itself via the relationship field.

Here is one of the many attempts I have done to connect the two automatically.

Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thank you ahead of time!